We often spend our time looking at articles and posts about women being murdered, harmed, raped and assaulted- and ignore the fact that this happens to men also. We could likely name a very large handful of places women can go for support when this happens to them.....but where do men go? Can you name one place? I bet you'll be shocked to learn that a 1994 University of Iowa paper by veteran criminal lawyer Alan Dershowitz reported that over 40% of US spousal murders are perpetrated by women! "Outside the home, men's chances of being attacked or killed are much higher if you’re a man. Men make up over two-thirds of murder victims, 68%. Therefore, of the 540 currently known UK murder victims from 2011/12, whether inside or without the house, 367 were male, and 173 were female. This means that the UK murder rate of men is more than one per day."- the telegraph Im not going to be biased so I will admit the same article found around 85-90% of convicted murderers are men, a majority of the reported domestic abusers and pretty much all of those committing sexual attacks, but what these statistics fail to mention is men are more commonly the victims of these perpetrators. What we are failing to do is protect men from violence that occurs from both men AND women The AIC found that ,
Victims of violence can experience serious and long-lasting consequences in lots of ways. They can experience:
Its no surprise then that with these symptoms the male rate of suicide is three times that of women, and rising. Suicide in men in their forties and fifties has risen 40% in ten years. In my country (Newzealand) there is quite literally NOWHERE for men experiencing domestic violence to go. Womens refuge refuse to help men and there are no other help centres in the community that will accept men suffering domestic violence. How on earth would a man likely suffering from Stockholm Syndrome (Generally speaking, Stockholm syndrome consists of "strong emotional ties that develop between two persons where one person intermittently harasses, beats, threatens, abuses, or intimidates the other."[4] The FBI's Hostage Barricade Database System shows that roughly eight percent of victims show evidence of Stockholm syndrome.[5] ) even be able to find the strength to leave? How can we expect mentally injured men who have been victimised to just "sort themselves out". This is a MASSIVE human rights issue! Its blatant discrimination. Watch this social experiment below and get chills when you realise women get assisted in public with domestic violence, but men getting assaulted is apparently FUNNY to both WOMEN AND MEN! This is a HUGE problem, we need to change the way we view violence towards men and stop blaming "all men". This is not the case, clearly, as shown by studies and social experiments. To any men out there needing help, Im so sorry you arent getting the assistance you need and I will continue fighting and sharing information about this as much as possible. Resources
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/10752232/Our-attitude-to-violence-against-men-is-out-of-date.html http://www.aic.gov.au/statistics/violent crime/assault.html http://www.theline.org.au/impacts-of-violence https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome Written by Karissa Best
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Throughout history- all governments, kings, lords, and people who have held positions of power, have used a form of population control to assert power over the greater quantity of people they control. Mostly, in ancient history at least, people were controlled through manipulation and forms of mind control. But as science progresses, we will continue to see scientific examples of mind control. Scientific meaning, a biological or physiological component to the assertion of control. MEAT is one of these forms.. Meat from animals has been proven to contain hormones. The same hormones that make you and I scared, upset and fearful. These hormones are called cortisol and adrenaline (the hormones in meat arent just limited to these two examples either, there are ALL KINDS of hormones present in meat, because afterall they are living, sentient beings just like us and they need those hormones to survive). I have attached a link to a pdf with the study done on cortisol and adrenaline in meat at the bottom of this article, but you can find this information from many, many other sources as well. Meat, is a perfect example of manipulation of the body and mind. As long as people keep consuming mass-produced meat from sadistic factories where animals truly get tortured (see below video) , then they will continue to absorb these hormones that are present in the meat... So how does that effect you as a citizen? Keep reading..... How do hormones in meat control you?Below are the symptoms for high cortisol levels, and how this gives control to those wishing to utilise you like a product. 1. You’re not sleeping well. Cortisol levels are supposed to drop at nighttime, allowing your body to relax and recharge. But if your cortisol levels are too high, you might notice that, even if you’ve been tired all day, you get a second wind right around bedtime. Then you toss and turn all night – and feel tired again the next day. This makes you too tired to oppose control 2. Even when you sleep well, you’re still tired. Over time, high levels of cortisol deplete the adrenal glands and predispose you to chronic fatigue. So if you feel like your get up and go got up and went, you’re probably stressed. 3. You’re gaining weight, especially around your abdomen, even when you eat well and exercise. Cortisol tends to make you thick around the middle, even when you’re doing everything “right.” This affects your ability to move and be as productive 4. You catch colds and other infections easily. Cortisol deactivates your body’s natural self-repair mechanisms, which means that your immune system which is perfectly designed by nature to keep you healthy goes caput, leaving you vulnerable to every cootie you encounter. The more often you are sick, the more you rely on your government assisting you to get better, or supporting you when you are too unwell. Also, your government makes an income off you when you buy pharmaceuticals from them, which makes them richer and you poorer. 5. You crave unhealthy foods. Cortisol raises your blood sugar, putting you at risk of diabetes. High glucose levels then bump up your insulin levels, which then drop your blood sugar – and all of a sudden – yes, you guessed it – you’re struck with wild cravings for Twinkies. Which makes you want to continue eating the meat even though its making you suffer 6. You experience backaches and headaches. When your cortisol levels are high over a long period of time, your adrenal glands start to get depleted. This raises prolactin levels, increasing the body’s sensitivity to pain, such as backaches and muscle aches. Excessive cortisol also hypersensitizes the brain to pain, such that even the slightest twinge can excite the nerves of the brain, causing headaches. This causes you discomfort, making you less able to defend yourself and more reliant yet again on pharmaceuticals 7. Your sex drive is in the crapper. Consider cortisol the anti-Viagra. When stress hormones are high, libido-inducing hormones like testosterone drop and voila… nothing. This creates a disconnect within families, and relationships.....rendering you alone and useless if you disagreed or revolted 8. Your gut acts up. Your gastrointestinal system is very sensitive to stress hormones like cortisol. You might experience nausea, heartburn, abdominal cramps, diarrhea, or constipation as a result of too many stress hormones. Again, making you either reliant on drugs that fund your own slavery, or making you too weak to fight back 9. You feel anxious. Cortisol and epinephrine can lead to jitters, nervous stomach, feelings of panic, even paranoia. This increases your fear, which gives your power to the controller 10. You feel blue. High levels of cortisol suppress production of serotonin, and next thing you know, you’re awash in doom and gloom. Depressed people are often in a state of mind that says "I cant win, I give up". Its not a coincidence that our society has depression happen to 1 in 3 people in their lifetime- yet tribes in the amazon dont experience this at all. Our society has been created to exascerbate these effects to keep us docile and doing "what we should be" Its likely that reading this, you are telling yourself "so what, what can i do about it. Who cares".... Please see, that only responses like THAT prove my concerns even truer. If someone (not just me, but hundreds of thousands of people) tells you that you are being poisoned, turned into a product and your well being is tarnished due to consumption of evil and dangerous products, and YOU DONT CARE.....then how can you not understand how important it is to at least reduce those products.....I mean, with that type of response, you may as well drink some snake venom. The worst part is, its not just meat.....its nearly everything. Sugar is bad, milk is bad, flouride is bad, cheese is bad, drugs are bad.....I could go on and on. Please consider what this means for you and your children. You will get sick more often, your brain capabilities are compromised, you are sore, tired and docile. Us humans are smarter than that! START MAKING DIFFERENT CHOICES TODAY. The Effect of Stress on Livestock and Meat Quality Prior - Animal Studies Repository https://www.google.co.nz/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://animalstudiesrepository.org/cgi/viewcontent.cgi%3Farticle%3D1019%26context%3Dacwp_faafp&ved=0ahUKEwj8qu_Y_7vVAhVImZQKHXGICEw4ChAWCCQwAA&usg=AFQjCNEhyibnXMRxUDrgY3FuCMBQ-LYEhQ Written by Karissa Best 2017
To understand how a female gets addicted to porn, one must look at the early life of the female first. Being born a girl in today's society, has its own set of issues. We are taught to behave sexually from the youngest of ages. This is taught to us through the media, through how people talk about women, through movies/tv, through social expectations. We watch adult women behaving seductively in every single thing that surrounds us. We are taught behaving in this seductive way- is what makes us beautiful, perfect and important in the world. All a child wants is for people to love and accept them, and theres no better way to do this than copy the way people who ARE accepted act. Now, truly, as young girls we do not yet understand why adult women behave this way. Neither do we understand why males enjoy women who act this way. But we are children so we copy and strive to behave in the same way presented to us. This is a quite confusing time for a young female. We are told by parents to absolutely not behave in such a way. We are told we are disgusting for flirting or acting promiscuous. This is so utterly hypocritical. Afterall, all the successful, famous and accepted women in our society behave in this way. Its the only common thing between them, and an intelligent child will believe that if they behave this way- they too can be successful and loved by everyone. There are no sexual thoughts to this behaviour yet, it is simply a young girl copying behaviours for approval. Two things can happen when a young girl is told to stop behaving this way. She may develop shame about her sexuality before she even realises what it is and hide that part of herself where possible, or she will adamantly protest and continually behave in this manner regardless. Move on to being a female teenager, and now an entirely sexualised world is fuelled even further by the teen female developing her own sexual feelings. Sexuality and pornographic-styled material is now everywhere in this females life. She can not avoid it, and its become more acceptable for her to show her sexualised form. She may start enjoying using the same seductiveness thats shes witnessed her whole childhood. She finds that she can get approval from any man, by behaving sexually and attractive at all times. This feeds the ego of the teenager, especially if she fits the appearance of sexualised women in the media. The more sexualised the teen girl behaves, the more interested and approved teen males will make her feel. On the other hand though- the more sexualised she behaves, the more uncomfortable she makes her female peers. Her female peers will name call her, or ridicule her behind her back- all the while pushing her further away from her female peers and closer to her male peers. In our society, we accept boys treating girls like sexual objects. They readily make comments on whether girls at school are attractive or not, whether they would have sex with them or not and will often assault teenage girls by feeling their breasts or degrade teen girls with comments about what they want. So, this teen girl is faced with sexualised tv, sexualised idols, sexualised music, sexualised clothing, sexualised products and on top of that sexualised treament by others'. Sometimes the teen girl will enjoy herself, feeling approval from others that she is attractive and wanted. Other times she will feel afraid or demeaned. The teenage years are equally a stressful and confusing time for her sexuality. If the teenager has viewed porn yet, which is likely since only 17% of teenage girls havent seen porn before the age of 18 ( I would argue that every teen who has access and knows about porn, would have viewed it at least once), then her already skewed thoughts of her sexuality are even further damaged. She will know how to masturbate, and know what gives her pleasure- and porn contains none of this. It shows women being choked, ignored, treated like objects. The women in porn are thrown around like a doll, their feelings are ignored. If a woman has tears in her eyes, the males will ignore it and continue. There is nothing in porn to arouse a teenage girl, except the notion that at least those women are wanted and being used by the men. Two things happen at this stage also, she either hates porn and refuses to watch it- or she aspires to be that useful, wanted and needed by a man. She believes that the treatment in porn is a compliment. That the female must be so attractive, if men get that aroused and want her that much. The teen female may want to use porn to achieve ultimate sexual atrraction for men. Women are more empathetic than men as proven by American Psychology research, so we naturally want them to be happier and want to understand what they want so we can give it to them. Alot of females in their teens, put their relationship needs and wants entirely last. We have been taught to be attractive to men and as compliant as we possibly can be. We feel approval when men use us. It reinforces our self etseem (that we lack because of photoshopped society) when males want us at all. The more males who want them the better. Alot teenage girls experience some sexual assault, 1 in 4 girls to be exact. So if they havent experienced it themselves, they have most certainly witnessed it. So being treated as an object is very normal on our society, and sexual violence is prevalent. Not every boy or man treats her in a abusively sexual way, so it can get quite overwhelming once the teen knows its a choice to treat her this way. This is the point where the teen decides to either beat them (avoid such treatment and protest) or join them. If she joins them, this is the point where she may turn to porn.
Her porn addiction will begin when she needs to watch porn to become aroused. See, an issue with porn is how it teaches men to treat women sexually. There is no truth to it. Women do not get aroused being treated as such. Women dont truly enjoy being choked. No one ever did before porn. Before porn, choking was something you did to kill someone. These days, its used to mimick arousal. After watching actresses pretend to be aroused by choking and men pretending to enjoy it also, then eventually, it manipulates the viewer into thinking its exciting and arousing. So with the choking, and the gagging and the name calling ("do you like that, slut?") the men dont learn how to arouse the woman- she must turn to porn to arouse and orgasm herself, or to become aroused before sex. Putting her in the position of forcing her to have cognitive ignorance about how wrong, innacurate and degrading it is for the females in porn or else she could not use it. She must view porn as the male, pretending to be the woman in the porn video and using that notion of being wanted to gain her arousal. The thing with porn is, you dont just watch one video....you watch 3, 5, 20, 40.... Eventually you get bored with the same content. The brain releases dopamine while watching porn, and lots of it. So you need new content, often to keep the same amount of dopamine releasing, because like watching your favourite movie 100x over you eventually get sick of the same stuff. This is not true for real life interactions though, because in real life- every day is different. Every interaction is different, so we dont get this bored stagnant feeling from life like we do repetitive media. So with new pornographic videos, comes more likelihood to see abusive or grotesque content. She will eventually become so addicted that she will need to watch porn during sex or masturbation to feel any dopamine at all. The imagery in porn is far more graphic than real life, so in comparison, she cannot get the same efficacy of arousal from real life anymore. So we have determined a cycle. She will watch more graphic and brutal porn to get aroused, then she will get bored with it, not be able to stop, watch more graphic porn, get bored- and the cycle goes on. This is where the privatization of the addiction occurs. Because the things the female is now viewing are absolutely awful. She will hide what videos she is watching, and begin watching them in the middle or the night or day, or even hide in the toilet. When she is bored, sad, lonely, depressed or angry she will turn to porn so the dopamine can take the feeling away. She is trapped watching women being abused by men. She is trapped watching men treat women with extreme brutality. She has essentially become addicted to rape, torture, abuse and assault of women. This is all veiled when she is aroused, but when she is no longer aroused- she will feel deep self hatred for enjoying it. Once the woman views so much porn that eventually she comes across a severely disturbing set of videos (anal prolapsing, cutting, extreme torture, drowning porn, etc) she may "wake up" and realise how disgusting it is and seek help. Or otherwise in her relationship, her partner may feel extremely betrayed by her needing/wanting porn more than him. The fact that he alone does not arouse her is massively effective at destroying his confidence. She may not even realise, thinking that " everyone watches porn", that it makes her pleased, that he doesnt know what to do anyway. Her hurting him in such a way, might make her proactive in quitting and teaching her partner how to please her. Trying to quit porn as a woman today, can be done with knowledgeable individuals. The female must avoid all tv, sexualised music, videos, nightclubs or even certain shops. The addicted female will suddenly realise she is being triggered by such content to view porn, she must minimise these triggers while she is regulating her dopamine response. It takes some time to regulate your dopamine response, I would not suggest testing yourself at all for at least 8 weeks post quitting porn. A female that was previously addicted to porn can recognise the absolute dangerous effects of porn: -The heightened likelihood for porn viewers to want to be abused or be abusive towards others. -The lack of empathy for any upset or pain experienced. -The disregard for ones own emotions, all while putting a mans experience sexually above anything including her own pain, fear or humiliation. -The use of people as if they are objects. -Torture disguised as pleasure. -The lack of oxytocin in sexual interaction that precedented from porn, which is neccessary for feeling comfortable, loved, cared for and provide a deeper connection between intimate couples. Oxytocin is necessary so that people can feel greater empathy and sympathy. Women who become addicted to porn are victims of the porn industry, which is marketing from the low self esteem of women or the populace becoming accepting of sexual violence and the degradation of women. Women who are addicted to porn can quit by reducing triggers and remind themselves of the horrors of the porn industry for them personally and worldwide. Porn addiction in women affects:
If you are a woman or man struggling with porn addiction please feel free to join my facebook group: Betrayal/Ptsd/Pornaddiction-https://www.facebook.com/groups/640955816101456/?ref=ts&fref=ts&__nodl&sw_fnr_id=498255545&fnr_t=0 Please also check out http://fightthenewdrug.org for more information about porn addiction in both males and females. written by karissa best 2017
There are many battles emotionally after being a victim of domestic abuse. Here are 7 thoughts and ideas on how to cope with the aftermath you are left with. 1. Accept your emotions There is no right or wrong feeling after being a victim. You may go through feelings of guilt, sadness, depression, loneliness and many other emotions that other people may not understand. You may feel regret about how you handled something, you might still love the abuser, you might even feel strong resentment or hate. But the first thing you need to do is stop blaming yourself for feeling these things. What happened to you caused a great deal of confusion and pain, your emotions are the brains way of dealing with that pain. Accept your feelings for what they are, a representation of your experience. 2. Be the best you can be The most helpful thing you can do right now, is aim as high as you can. You can be amazing, you have been amazing before. When you were in that toxic relationship, you were brought down. Your self esteem was lowered, your expectations were lowered, and you got used to it. What you always wanted and dreamed of disappeared and the relationship you were in, become you. You need to rewrite what is best for you. You need to redetermine what makes you happy. Start changing your life. Think positive, act kindly and give the world what you deserve/want to receive. Remember, it's not okay to treat people bad. How did it effect you? Don't let yourself become an abuser out of being conditioned to the idea. 3. Begin living You may have altered your routine or beliefs based on how your abuser treated you. You might not want to get out of the bed in the morning anymore. You don't want to smile or socialise. Understand that the only way you can truly move on is by truly living. Take in your surroundings. Try to tell yourself as much as possible to be positive and happy. If you see an old school friend at the supermarket don't walk past them like you normally would- stop and say hi. Start controlling your environment and your interactions. Your free from being told you can't do something, go do and say whatever you want. One negative experience no matter how long it lasted doesn't get to decide whether your happy now. 4. Don't succumb to the trap He will message you, he will want to see what you are doing, he will want to force you back to him any way he can. He will be wonderful to you, and tell you the best things or he will threaten you and treat you badly. Regardless, you KNOW what he's like. You remember what he did. Don't let him win all over again. You wouldn't be reading this post if he treated you nicely, you wouldn't even be here if he was so great. Remind yourself if you need to, but never fall back in the trap. Otherwise it will be equally as hard to get out of it. 5. Support yourself. It's important you get a network (as big or small as you like) around you. People don't know you need help unless you tell them you do. You are responsible for your own support. You need to discuss your feelings with someone close to you, and talk about your options. You need to take moments for yourself, and schedule in some time for healing. 6. You're not alone. You already know that your not alone, that your not the first woman to go through this. But it's vital you understand that if this was someone else, you would feel empathy for them. You would never treat somebody like that. So don't ever think that you deserved to be treated like that. There are sadly so many women who have experienced domestic violence. You are not the only one, and with that comes alot of information and support. Try to join a forum or find a weekly group to better grasp the relationship that you were in. 7. Don't be afraid You might feel like there's so many things to be afraid of. What if I meet someone like that again? Can i trust men? Can i ever move on? I'm scared to start a new relationship? I can't make friends? Fear isn't real. We can make assumptions about how things in our life might go, we can see danger in a prime choice. But the fear doesn't truly exist. It's silly to be fearful. It's feeling an emotion over something that hasn't even happened yet. Don't let the past make you afraid for the future. That negativity is gone now, and you will certainly come across other things in your life which are not nice too. But you decide how you feel. Try to change fear into thoughtfulness. Being thoughtful gives you the chance to think things through properly and make the right decision. Once you face the things you are fearful of, they have no power anymore. Empaths are people who are sensitive to others feelings. They are kind and desperate to make other people happy. This is usually an amazing feature for our communities. How could these traits be anything as such? Let me explain...... I'll give you an example of how empathy works. A friend might say that they suffered child abuse. They come over to watch a movie with a group of friends. The movie that the majority of the group wants, has graphic scenes of child abuse. The empath will immediately activate and try to stop the movie by suggesting another. If that doesn't work she/he will help the friend avoid it...even maybe suggesting they need to go to the supermarket and buy popcorn. There they would explain the movie content, and discuss options or ideas in how to deal with it. This is empathy. An empath constantly lives in that role. They do not have a break. And they constantly analyse people and situations to see how to help people. An empath in an abusive relationship for instance, is a very bad thing. The empath tries to communicate with empathy and love, but this has no effect. So eventually they try to sympathise with the abusers communication needs believing that it may be the only way to have the abuser understand their suffering. They try to communicate how the abuser does. The empath is constantly seeking to understand and help their abuser. To give them peace, love and kindness- like the empath has already got within them. This behavior will eventually cause the empath to try the techniques of the abuser. Once those boundaries have been crossed, it stretches the line. But unlike a rubberband, the empath cannot suddenly snap back and stop those means of communication- as they are last resort response to stress situations that cause them. Such as reminders of the abuse, or high stress relationship issues (doesn't need to be abusive...just something a normal couple would argue about). This response would be formed in ANY empath from ANY type of abuse...be that a partner, or friend, or parent.... With narcissistic abuse, this is much worse for the empath. Because they realise that the narcissist never wanted help. They literally abused the empath on purpose. Their attempts to help and learn and develop those awful behaviors as a means of communicating, were a pre-emptive purposeful reaction the narcissist wanted and planned. They never saw a future in the relationship, and only used their victim until they broke them into crossing those boundaries, then they discard them and the empath is left with crazy thoughts, over the top reactions and a broken soul.... The empath has such intense empathy for others that eventually those broken boundaries will rise up again. They must be patient. KARISSA BEST | 2017 We all know that sight isn't really what it appears to be. Sight is really just a "device" (our eyes) converting a frequency into information that we can understand and utilise. So, we understand that everything is made up out of mathematical frequencies and equations- afterall, if it wasn't -we really wouldn't be able to see. Everything going into our eyes is mathematics and frequency, and each sentient being on earth has some form of processing this information into something our bodies can process and understand I'm going to suggest something outrageous. That not only is our WORLD made up of mathematics and frequencies, but our bodies are also. So when electrons REACT differently to us viewing them, they are ACTUALLY being affected by OUR frequency coming OUTWARDS from our eyes. They aren't aware AS SUCH, they are energy and maths- and are one of the smallest components of our world that we know of. They are taking DATA from US and are acting differently due to the disruption. On another note, I believe even the smallest amount of energy holds information within it, so there would truly be a purpose to this reaction if that hypothesis is correct. If you haven't yet delved into the world of quantum physics, or haven't seen the strange behaviour of electrons before please watch the video below, the most intelligent people in the world are baffled by this behaviour. Im not suggesting that I am correct, I have no means to prove my theory at this time...but it certainly is an interesting yet simple explanation Karissa Best July 2017
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